From a website called empoweringparents.com, we make it more simple for you so you would not misunderstand these grown-up words. Here are the 3 most common thinking errors kids use nowadays.
1. The Victim Stance
example: ” I didn’t break it! Sasha (a dog) pushed me.”
What you are trying to say is that you are a victim of the dog. It maybe natural to find ourselves as victims but we shouldn’t do them often. Constantly doing this action will affect your growth especially your emotions. If this happens as you grow up, you will feel that every task is too hard, boring or plain stupid. You will think that everything that will make you challenged or faced up to is unfair for your side. If this continues, you will not do responsibilities that are supposed to help you change.
2. Uniqueness
example:
mother: Why are you with this group of bullies
son: Because I’m unique mom and they’re the unique group in the school
A lot of children feel that they are unique but sometimes this thinking can have many consequences. Always remember that being unique is not being a bad and unreasonable one. You don’t have to do the bad things to be weird. You can be unique in many good ways such as arts, school and sports.
3. One-Way Training
example: When a child feel that he has the right to look for money in his parent’s bag without the need to ask permission but he doesn’t let his parent check his.
When your parents try to teach you that it’s not right, you resist through verbal abuse, dishonest, destructive behavior and even manipulation. The consequence is you will tend not to do your responsibilities. You’re not going to learn anything that is needed to be learn before you grow and become independent.
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